I feel like the opposite of depression is purpose and I’m on a mission to help everyone do the thing that makes them happy. I don’t think we would love something so much if we weren’t meant to do it. Whenever I’m talking to someone, I wonder what is the thing that they most want to do? What is that thing that they can’t stop dreaming about? What is that thing that when they think about it, their heart beats a little faster? I had many day jobs before I started to pursue my passion. I was a teacher, a real estate agent, and I worked in a casting office. I guess I thought that life wasn’t about being happy, but rather being practical. I didn’t know then what I know now-that it’s not about having the most talent or resources, but that passion and persistence does the trick. I moved out to Los Angeles when I was 24, wanting to be a songwriter, but I realized it was harder then I thought and so I hid my head in the sand. I tried to settle for other things and after a while I knew I was fooling myself. I was starting to feel depressed, working in a cubicle and not feeling a sense of purpose. I started to not recognize myself, my clothes or my friends. I decided to take the leap and quit my well paying job in search of a more fulfilling life. I found out the meaning of the world hustle. I learned what it meant to be resourceful and resilient. I was determined to hone my craft and keep trying new things until I eventually did what I set out to do. I wanted to write music and I wound up making multi six figures a year licensing my songs to film, tv and ads. I was written about in Variety, Billboard and the LA Weekly. I built a career doing something that never felt like a job.
So this year I started a podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, to inspire others to commit to what they love to do. On my show, I sit down with all sorts of successful creative people who followed their bliss. We talk about strategies they used to make a living doing what they love and we look for commonalities in all the stories. I have realized many more things to be true from interviewing so many people. First of all, it’s doable and it doesn’t matter how old you are or where you went to school. What matters most is how much grit you have and how much you contribute. When you show up and do the work before being paid, you will be rewarded. When you hone your craft and put in the work, you will be noticed because most people give up too fast. We all have excuses for why we don’t take action in the direction of our dreams, but the excuses just keep us stuck. I didn’t have the most talent or the most connections. I had a big commitment to what I wanted to do and I was willing to stick at it until I arrived. Also I fell in love with the journey. After all, the greatest reward isn’t what we achieve, but who we become in the process. Doing what we love is indeed the gift, so by the time you make a good living doing it, you realize you’ve been rich in the journey.
I believe that Rumi quote to be true “What you seek is seeking you”. The cool thing about all of this is that as you walk towards it you will get there faster then you imagined. With each step you take, you will figure out the next thing to do. When you have the courage to follow your passion the path will become clear and you’ll meet many like minded souls along the way. I hear so many people talking about wanting to change the world or make a difference in their country. I believe that the best way to make the world a better place is to be the happiest versions of ourselves. There’s a great Howard Thurman quote that says “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and get to it because what the world needs is people who have come alive. “ You were born to do something and you have a whisper inside of you telling you what that is. Listen to your gut and think about one thing you can do everyday to do what you love. You deserve to be your happiest you and the world needs to contribute that gift that you have. Even if other people are painting, baking, writing, designing or knitting it doesn’t matter because no one will do it the way that you do. We are all unique and our job is to figure out why were here and to say that which we have to say. I encourage you to create and play. If you love doing something there’s a reason for it. Life is too short to not do what we love.
Podcaster, Songwriter, Mommy of 3 yummy girls, Soul