As the designer and creative director of egg by Susan Lazar, I have this cool opportunity to share my own experiences and ideas with our readers—A somewhat intimidating task for someone that usually communicates on a more visual plane. Hope you enjoy!
This month, I’ve decided to share my own personal struggle with deciding just how much TV, movie and iPad time I allow my 4 year old Mikah to actually partake in.
Am I a bad mom by not playing with her and finding time to replace the artificial stimulation with more imaginative projects? Will she be unable to self soothe or entertain herself the old fashioned way – like in the olden days (my generation) when we were told to go outside and play. Am I being irresponsible by not preparing her for real life but rather, allowing her to slip into an over-stimulated virtual reality?
I’ve thought about it a lot and concluded that first, whatever decisions I make as a mom are OK– and that I’m not going to “wreck” my kid’s chance of a happy future and fulfilling life with these choices. This applies even when made with the goal of gaining more sanity and personal recharge time, which in the end, results in me being a better mom. With that said, I’m ending the guilt trip.
In addition, I’ve concluded that media content in this new age has improved so vastly and has actually become a positive and sometimes educational experience for Mikah. A valuable experience my own interaction with her would not allow. The stimulation and thoughtfulness that is inspired by most (not all) of these incredibly imaginative apps and programs is real and positive.
Just the other day Mikah asked me where does our food go – and how do we hear sounds? We went straight to youtube where we found so many children’s videos explaining both of these complex processes. It was a good review for mom and an amazing discovery for my daughter. She then asked if we could look at what’s in our heads tomorrow? So cool!
I’ve decided to embrace this new medium as the “new playground,” yet I’d like to add, not replace, the traditional playground. The awareness these kids gain on a daily basis far surpasses anything I had access to at her age. Let’s see where they all end up! Amazing potential for all our kids.
I‘ve decided that I will limit and monitor the amount of time she spends online and try to create balance in this new frontier. Teaching limits will in itself prove to be a great way for my daughter to learn about reward and delayed satisfaction she would otherwise not have had.